On this blog I will discuss the family
background of bullies as discussed within the academic journal article
“Bullying in School: An Overview of Types, Effects, Family Characteristics, and
Intervention Strategies”, by Paul R. Smokowski and Kelly Holland Kopasz.
According to the journal article
research has shown that the families of bullies are “often troubled.” In fact,
the parents of bullies are often hostile, rejecting, and indifferent towards
their children. Within the household of a bully, the father figure is usually
missing and the mother tends to have a permissive parenting style. As a result,
supervision over bullies tends to be very minimal. In addition, some parents
will dismiss the aggressive behaviors of their children as a rite of passage.
What makes this circumstance particularly concerning is that research suggests
that a bully’s level of aggression will continue to increase if the caretaker
continues to tolerate or dismiss the aggressive behavior.
The aforementioned revelations are
interesting because they hint towards a possible origin for bullying. As noted
within the article, the lack of parental supervision seems to be one of the
initial factors that give life to bullying behaviors. However, on this occasion
the blame does not fall onto the bully, but rather onto the parents of bullies.
It may be that bullies simply exhibit aggressive and violent behaviors out of a
need of attention. Attention that these children should be, but are not, receiving
at home. By ignoring their child, parents may be fueling their child’s aggressive
behavior to a point where it becomes a normal part of their lives and once
again the issue of normalization reemerges. In addition, by ignoring their child,
parents are irresponsibly passing the problematic behaviors exhibited by their aggressive
child onto other individuals. Perhaps future anti-bullying strategies should
focus on strengthening the relationships between bullies and their parents. Not
only would this strategy lessen the amount of bullying, it would also benefit
the bully’s overall family relationship.
The journal article notes that since
supervision in the homes of bullies tends to be minimal, discipline tends to be
very inconsistent. However, when discipline is enforced, the parents of bullies
tend to use “power-assertive techniques.” In other words, punishment of bullies
often occurs in a physical form or in the form of angry outbursts. Consequently,
these children begin to learn that aggression and violence can be used as means
to solve their problems. In essence, these children begin to imitate the
aggressive behaviors they see at home, because they view them as efficient
means to obtain what they want.
Once again the article hints that
blame for bullying falls onto parents. How can children be expected to behave
properly, if this behavior is never modeled or reinforced at home? In order for
anti-bullying strategies to be effective against bullying children, schools and
parents must work together. Progress will never be made if different behaviors are
modeled and reinforced within different settings. Instead, this mixture will
create an increasingly difficult situation which becomes increasingly hard to address.
In fact, with the passage of time bullying children may learn how to change
their demeanor within different settings in order to manipulate the people around
them and decrease the probability of getting caught while bullying. As stated on previous occasions, prevention is
the best intervention and this may prove to be especially critical when dealing
with children.
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